Little things #14

#54. Answers with clear intentions

I come across so many videos that aim to help women in relationships, but to be honest, I don't like them much. They often make it seem like men are the center of everything. But a healthy, lasting relationship is built on mutual effort and choices --- both sides meeting each other halfway. If that balance isn't there, you simply won't get what you want.

As I mentioned before, Little things #12, advice shouldn't be followed blindly. Here are some examples:

1. Signs he truly loves you - These videos list things a man does when he loves you, but it isn't just about actions - it's also about the person behind them. It's not just about your side. It's about both of you. You have to consider whether "he" in your relationship truly possesses the qualities to become a "man" they are describing.

2. Men love women who are detached - There's some truth to this. A relationship needs space, and a woman focusing on her own passions can be attractive. But detachment doesn't mean ignoring the relationship or acting like you don't care. You also need to be serious about what you're doing. Otherwise, you risk wasting time on someone who doesn't deserve access to your life. As I said, a healthy relationship is built on mutual effort. You can't remove yourself entirely while still expecting a strong, loving connection. A relationship requires time, energy, and genuine investment from both people.

3. No contact after a breakup  - Some advice suggests you should go completely silent after a breakup, but you shouldn't do it just because someone told you to. Ask yourself: What is the best course of action for this relationship and for myself? What do I hope to achieve? Why do I want to stay silent? The right approach depends on your specific situation.

Ultimately, videos can't cover everything. They are just references - you are the one who decides what works for you. So, listen to advice wisely, but always think for yourself, and consider your specific situation.

#55. I named my niece with great honor.

Her name is Vy Triệu Tuệ, meaning "a million times wiser."

#56. The bigger pictures

I have gained the enough time and experience to identify core problems in certain situations. Some issues I once considered significant turned out to be less important than I thought. Now, instead of fixating on minor issues that remain unclear, and getting lost in them, I have learned to see the bigger picture. I step back, analyze the situation, and identify the fundamental problem.

I have also improved my communication by focusing on the core issue rather than explaining small, scattered details. When conversations lose focus, key points can be overlooked, and the message may not be fully understood. By saying less but making a stronger impact, I ensure my words are heard and effective. Of course, identifying core problems especially when it comes to personal matters is not easy, it requires experience, time, and deliberate effort.

This perspective also applies to personal growth - shifting focus from weaknesses to the bigger picture: the future, strengths, and passions - rather than being held back by small obstacles right in front of us.

#57. Life's realities

1. Education, work capabilities, and personality, morality are not the same. They may intersect but remain distinct.
2. Nothing is absolute. Society often follows the multitude. Be confident in yourself and walk your own path.

#58. Strongest women I've ever known

1. Oprah Winfrey

Her success is not just about achievements but also about overcoming her past and shaping a powerful perspective on life.

I was especially impressed by her speech Oprah Winfrey's life advice will change your future, where she said:

"Then I went back and I took a long look what it was I was doing on TV and made a decision that I was no longer going to just be on TV but I was going to use TV as a platform as a force for good and not be used by TV. Using television as a service."

That moment made me pay closer attention to her and the impact of her work.

2. Michelle Obama

The former First Lady, Michelle Obama, has a remarkable career that speaks for itself. Her outlook on life may have played a significant role in her success. One quote that resonates with me is "The White house doesn't change you, it reveals who you are"

Perhaps, a woman's strength begins with her perspective. Taking the strongest women as role models not only helps me reach my fullest potential but also allows me to focus on what truly matters, without getting caught up in the ordinary.

This reminds me of the saying, "Reach for the moon. Even if you fall short, you will land among the stars"

#59. I like it because...

I like writing because it allows me to express my thoughts.
I like taking photos because it captures the world through my eyes.
I like drawing because it lets me create what I love with my own hands.

I like wandering somewhere because it turns into a part of my memories

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