When I listen to a song I truly love. I wish I could create one of my own. Everything feels perfect: melody, rhythm, storytelling, artistry, emotional connection. I deeply admire artists for the craft of music-making. Their work reflect immense talent with a producer mindset. It is a combination of creativity, vision, technical skills, and hard work.
In my opinion, although I am a very good listener, I am not naturally sensitive to making sounds. This sensitivity, to me, is the crucial foundation for producing something unique and excellent. I cannot sing well either. However, I am more sensitive about emotion and imagery which driven me to start journaling and poetry.
This is why I tend to extremely admire who are both singer and songwriters
International: Sia, Lady Gaga, Adele, Billie Eilish, Alan Walker, Ed Sheeran, etc.
I have a clear understanding of what I want to do and what I am willing to dedicate my life to. Things drive me everyday and even if I fail, I keep moving forward. I do want to create a song to challenge myself, but I know I cannot devote all my time to it. The real takeaway here is that I feel inspired --- I recognized that I am always curious and drawn to do difficult things. That, in itself, is something I embrace.
#41. Critical thinking and love
I am currently in a phase where I am investing time, energy and attention into my love life. So, it is natural that I sometimes discuss this topic.
I've noticed countless videos, books, therapy sessions aimed at helping people in relationships --- Wow this is a vast field with so much to explore. It has even become a thriving industry, shaping careers, and creating economic opportunities (Matthew Hussey, Steve Harvey etc)
I see people seeking advice, asking for help, and looking for guidance in navigating their relationship.
I question --- why do people have so many questions about love and relationships? Are they lacking confidence? Are they uncertain when the opposite gender is involved? Do they overanalyze small details? Do they not truly understand themselves, what they are searching for in a relationship?Or perhaps, are they even being manipulated?
It is true that relationships are complex because they involve emotions, uncertainty, and different personalities.
From my experience, searching for help from experts is important to avoid any personal bias and solve problems more efficiently. However, in the end, you are the one making the final decision. External advice should never be followed blindly, it is most valuable when it resonates with your personal experience.
My advice --- is to seek advice from experts, but at the same time, take time to reflect on your own relationship. Listen to your inner voice, trust your intuition, and ensure your choices align with your values, etc. When you do this, you will have all the right answers with clear intentions and make an informed decision.
Some questions make me feel that they are lazy of thinking and brainstorming even about their own emotions and relationship dynamics. Instead of deeply reflecting, they totally reply on external advice without truly understanding them --- They struggle with critical thinking.
--- Stop being soft----
--- Stop being manipulated---
--- Don't settle for less---
--- Don't be afraid to give up the (quite) good to go to the great--- (quoted)
#42.Lazy of thinking and the root of problems
I used the phase "Lazy of thinking and brainstorming"in the above paragraph #41.Because it holds a special meaning for me and it woke me up during my freshman year of university. It came from my math teacher, and it changed my perspective.
At that time, my classmates and I were struggling with our subjects, receiving low grades, and feeling lost. The university organized orientation sessions and motivational talks to help us transition from high school to university life. However, these sessions felt quite general and didn’t leave much of an impact on me.
Then, during a math lesson, my teacher --- a young and intelligent man whose brilliance was evident even in his appearance --- pointed out a harsh truth: we were lazy to think and brainstorm. Oops! That hit hard. It made me reflect deeply, and I had to admit ---- it was true.
Why did this wake me up? Because unlike the motivational talks, he directly pointed out the root of our problem. It was also difficult for me to accept that I was lazy to think. But from that moment on, I reminded myself: I have to think if I want to get good results. It sounds simple but this realization sharpened my ability to identify the root of problems. That makes a lot of sense—many issues are stem from the simple root cause.
#43. Another perspective for journaling
I've have moments of doubts about my journaling as you can read in my journaling too. However, writing and expressing myself is still better than staying silent out of fear of judgment.
Journaling, like any form of self-expression, isn’t about being perfect—it’s about growth, self-reflection, and clarity. Even when doubts creep in, the act of writing helps me understand myself better and sharpen my thinking. Above all, REAL is beautiful.
With this belief, I will continue putting myself out there more and expanding my comfort zone.
I like winter. Is that so strange and weird to you? I like winter when I was just a little kid. I had no idea at that time but I did know I like the atmosphere during winter. I love we all family members gathered in the warm stove. I like how we tried to make us hot. I like to wear thick jackets, wool hat, scarf and socks. I love Christmas and Lunar New year coming soon in the winter. Having said that, I give a truly special feeling for winter season. Liking winter still exist wherever I go. I studied Bachelor in HoChiMinh City far from my hometown and there is no winter in this place. I felt there must be something missing here and it was true. I miss my hometown and miss the cool air in the winter. It's rare for me to see someone claim that their favorite season in the year is winter. I can tell winter is my favorite. I like the air, the atmosphere. I like to see all people put on their jacket and scarf in the street. Everything seems closer together than ever. A book mention abo...
Unfinished memories The sun begins the day, It shines but feels far away. The air is calm, the sky is wide, But something stirs, unsettled inside. I walk the path we used to know, where memories softly grow. Do I still cross your mind, Even if just for a little while? You chose to walk away, But I still feel you every day. I don't forget the way we cared, All the moments we shared. We once exchanged our every thought, Chatted everything without a second thought. We updated each other, day by day, We missed our voice, our smile, our way. Surrounding you felt like surrounding me, A quiet kind of intimacy. Now I must let it drift away, As if we never met that day. Unfinished memories remain, Lingering like a gentle pain. Time moves on, and so must I, But part of me still asks why. Why did you draw so near, so fast, Only to become part of the past? Hanoi, June 22, 2025
I've been someone who was really strict with myself, always holding high standards. But over time, I've realized that being too hard can become a barrier --- one that limits both my potential and my joy. I've learned it's better to recognize small achievements and build from them gradually and patiently. Real strength is knowing when to soften, to allow space for mistakes, for learning, for growth, and for simply being human. It's not just an ideal in theory, but a practice in reality, the ability to live it, not just imagine it. It means believing that I can still reach my goals, even if the path is slower, messier, or more gentle than I once imagined. Still, there are parts of me I will not bend, especially in love. When it comes to relationships, I carry a different kind of firmness. I'm willing to growing with someone, to learning together but I stay grounded in a few core rules: 1. It is all or nothing. I don't do halfway. I want depth, presence, and r...
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