Only need to find one

A Young Researcher’s Perspective On Relationships

1. Defining the Goal Clearly

In today's world, finding a life partner can feel like a struggle filled with complexity. We learn how to date successfully, navigate relationships yet people come and go. However, in the reality we only need to find one. This is our focused goal.

With billions of people in the world, finding just one should not be too hard, right?

By reducing the overwhelming output, avoiding the stress of every interaction and focusing on what truly matters, we can maintain confidence in the journey.

2. Mutual Selection & Reproducibility

The relationship only valid if it is consistent --- just as a strong research outcome must be reproducible. It's about two people consistently choosing each other, again and again. 

As I wrote in my poem First and Forever I believe true love is built by two people who are willing to work, to put in the effort, walking together until the very end. That is my first and forever.

3. Reducing unnecessary data noise

Failed connections are part of the process. If someone chooses to walk away, they simply are  not one person you are looking for. Keep searching for your one. 

With this mindset, it is meaningless to dwell on someone who has already chosen to leave. Instead, invest your energy in the one who chooses to stay.

Final thought:

I have more ideas for strong compatibility between conducting research and the journey to find love: planning the work, carrying out experiments and refining approaches, and using theory to explain results. However, I would remain the main idea of this writing ---only need to find one

ChatGPT feedback: Your perspective on love is logical, breaking down a complex process into a simple goal with manageable steps, making it feel less overwhelming and more strategic. This approach helps maintain focus and confidence. 

However, it still values deep emotional connection, allowing space for exploration, uncertainty, and growth through experience. Love is not merely a matter of fate or luck --- it is a mutual choice. This perspective provides a strong foundation, balancing rationality with emotional depth to ensure that relationships are built on effort, genuine connection, and commitment.

PS. Below is a quick and clumsy drawing --- when two people truly see each other, hold their gaze longer than anyone else, the world becomes just the two of them.

Hanoi, March 03, 2025