Look at my recent photos, I see myself getting older. With the face --- looks more mature, I feel like I am becoming ready to be a mother. Finding Mr. RIGHT will take time, and by then, I will be even more prepared for motherhood.
I would love to see my children as a part of me. I truly hope their eyes resemble mine in some way because, to me, eyes hold deep meaning and I love my eyes, too. I do want a big and happy family. I do want to give the best for my kids --- teaching them valuable skills, raising them with love, and taking full responsibility for their growth.
But never ever I thought that being a mother meant sacrificing my entire life for my children the way I perceive some mothers around me do. Becoming a mother, not losing myself.
I cannot force myself into a job I dislike just to provide for them financially. Instead, I want to build a career I love --- one that allows me to support them while staying true to myself. That’s why securing a stable and fulfilling career is a priority before starting a family for me.
I also know that being a mother doesn’t mean giving up my passions. I will dedicate time to caring for my children when they need me, but I will also make time for myself and allow them to grow independently. I will not take away life experiences from them --- this is their journey, and I will be there to support them as they learn to stand on their own.
I love traveling, and I want my whole family to take long trips together. I want to show my children the world, teach them how to travel meaningfully, help them develop important skills, instill a sense of responsibility along the way and help them appreciate the beauty in simple things.
I love writing, and drawing and I want to continue nurturing these passions, even as a mother. I will share these interests with my children, engaging with them through creativity and play. At the same time, I also value my alone time, and I will make sure to find the right balance and priority while teaching my children to respect it.
I find joy in cooking and experimenting with new ingredients. It would be wonderful to have my children around while I cook --- their curious eyes watching, little hands reaching to help, laughter filling the space. I imagine the kitchen as more than just a place for meals. It's a space for bonding. A warm, happy family gathered in the kitchen, sharing stories, tasting, learning, and simply enjoying the moment together. I want my children to grow up with these memories, feeling the warmth of family in every meal, in every shared moment.
I believe that if I am happy, I can make my children happy. Above all, I want to be more than just an adult, more than just a provider --- I want to be a presence they can truly feel, a role model they can learn from in their childhood.
I want to show my children the power of independence, the fire of passion, the importance of mutual respect, and the strength of responsibility. I want them to grow up trusting in love, in family support, and in themselves. I want them to believe in their own ability to find love --- nurtured by the love their mom and dad give them, by the love they see in us. That is the kind of mother I want to be.
Some of my friends became mothers early while I was still a student. At that time, I wasn’t even sure where I stood in life. I lacked confidence in my ability to raise children, believing that I could only provide them with what I had. That belief still holds true, but I now also strongly believe that my children can become even greater. Because of this, I want to fulfill my own life as much as possible, so that I can offer the best of myself to them.
I dream of my children living the most glorious lives --- like the brightest stars shining in the sky, like the most radiant flowers in bloom. But I also respect their individuality and their choices. This life belongs to them, what matters most is that they find true happiness in the path they choose.
I often envision the kind of motherhood I want to embrace. Sometimes, I share these thoughts with my friends, but they judge me. They say that because I haven’t found the right partner yet, I shouldn’t be thinking about motherhood. To them, it seems unnatural, like skipping steps. But I don’t agree. Having a clear vision of my future isn’t about rushing the process --- it’s about understanding what truly matters to me and establishing boundaries that should never be crossed. With this belief, the right match will naturally fall into place.
I want a partner who genuinely want to become a father. "Don't want kids or even undecided" is my deal beaker. The mindset is a significant difference between actively wanting to build a family and simply compromising. I want my children to be a true representation of our love --- and for them to feel it, too. This clarity helps me not settle for a love that doesn’t align with my vision.
Throughout my life, I have never lowered my vision --- I have only worked harder to reach it. I know that building a family involves many factors and challenges, but I hold onto the hope of finding a person who shares my values and is willing to work together to create a meaningful life.
Hanoi, February 21, 2025
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